I contributed a piece to a just-released anthology, Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys: True tales of love, lust, and friendship between straight women and gay men.

The cover features the names a few contributors, including Andrew Solomon and Cindy Chupack, and then in smaller font, “and others.” I’m “others.”
My piece is called, […]

Here’s another great opportunity for my advice column to reach new readers:
Rainbow Rumpus, an online magazine for kids of LGBT parents, has been running reprints of my advice column on their site (with my permission) in a section specifically for parents. This month’s question is about teens adjusting to a newly blended lesbian-parent household.
Minnesota’s new […]

Welcome readers of Mombian, where today’s post is a reprint of an advice column I wrote about a daughter of lesbians wondering about her donor dad.
I wish the now-20-year-old would write back and let me know what has happened since.

aMaze, the organization best known for its Families All Matter Book Project is focusing on LGBT families in its most recent newsletter. They asked me to submit an article about my reflections on inclusive curricula, or in my case, lack thereof.
Excerpt:
Something as simple as a book would have opened the door for me to […]

COLAGE’s latest issue of Just For Us is out, and the theme is school. Here’s my contribution:
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Queerspawn Visibility Still Lacking on “Friendly” Campuses
by Abigail Garner
Each time I am scheduled to speak about LGBT families on a college campus, I call in advance to interview a few students and faculty. I ask them questions about the […]

Here is my review of the book Same Sex in the City by Lauren Blitzer and Lauren Levin. The end of my review wrapped up more like an outline of what should be covered in a book that claims to be a guide for the newly-out lesbian — basically everything this book lacks.

Okay, so walking out of math class to defend my classmate’s right to have a pierced nose isn’t exactly social justice. Regardless, the personal insight I gained from that day is the root of why I have been so strongly aligned with social justice throughout my life. When I recognize a situation that seems unfair, I can’t disassociate myself just because it doesn’t directly affect me.

COLAGE-only space is where we are released from pressure to be a certain way in front of media or parents - ours or anyone else’s.

It’s a common question: How do kids of gay and lesbian parents “cope” when they do not have a parent of their own gender to guide them through puberty?

This question puts our families up for comparison not with real straight families, but with the fantasy of how straight families communicate. For example, an adolescent daughter with gay dads and no mom is supposedly missing out on walking along the beach with an all-knowing female parent who can commiserate with her whenever she has that “not-so-fresh” feeling.

By boasting about my parents’ long-term relationship, I am implicitly communicating a value that doesn’t sit well with me: that queer people are worthy of equality only if they have a life partner to whom they are willing to commit.