…but you don’t have to come out today. There are 364 other days that could also serve your purpose just fine.

Today’s edition of the Pioneer Press features a column by Laura Billings on Governor McGreevey’s recent disclosure and resignation. She interviewed me for the article and relies heavily on my take on the situation.
“Author says focus on out-of-closet governor both good, bad”
By Laura Billings
Excerpt:
Though some activists see McGreevey’s coming out as a victory for gay [...]

The article from The Hartford Currant has been republished in the Chicago Tribune.
“What’s a straight spouse to do? — When gay spouse comes out”
By Susan Campbell
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Here’s how the article wraps up:
Abigail Garner’s father came out when she was 5. At age 32, Garner wrote Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like [...]

Today’s edition of the Hartford Courant gives Abigail Garner the last word in an article about gay and lesbian people coming out to straight spouses.
“What’s A Straight Spouse To Do? When Gay Spouse Comes Out”
By Susan Campbell
Courant Staff Writer
Excerpt:

Abigail Garner’s father came out when she was 5. At age 32, Garner wrote “Families Like Mine: [...]

Sunday’s edition of the Philadelphia Inquirer (8/15/04) includes quotes from an interview with me about gay and lesbian people coming out to straight spouses and their children.
“And what of families left behind?
Spouses and children may suffer when someone comes out of the closet. There are places to turn.”
By Beth Gillin
Excerpt:
Straight spouses commonly are asked, “How [...]

Today’s edition of the New York Times quotes me under the headline, “Sex, Ambition and the Politics of the Closet: A Double Life” by Michael Slackman and Andrew Jacobs.
The article puts Governor McGreevey’s disclosure in context of the overwhelming homophobia that pressures public figures to remain in the closet.
According to experts, the often elaborate mechanisms [...]

Written for National Coming Out Day 2003. My cab driver goes on about homosexuals and how they have to turn everything into being about sex, and how this is just one more step in the homosexual agenda…I contemplate asking him to let me off at the next highway exit and let me call for another cab, but really I just want to get home.

I wrote a short letter about National Coming Out Day, and Minneapolis StarTribune published it:
October 11th is National Coming Out Day. If someone you care about is gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender (GLBT) you can make a difference by “coming out” — as an ally. Allies challenge anti-gay sentiment that could be held by your [...]

Written for National Coming Out Day 2002. When people are so homophobic that they think gay people are sub-human, their ears immediately close to anything gay people have to say. Straight parents, however, have more credibility and clout in the eyes of homophobes and they at least have a shot at communicating a message of acceptance.

Come out to my kids? I don’t have to “come out” to them because I’ve never been “in.”
For parents who were out before they added children to their family, the idea of officially coming out to their kids seems moot. I disagree.