Comments on: Passing on Queer Family Values http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/09/18/passing-on-queer-family-values/ Culturally Queer News and Views from Abigail Garner Fri, 08 Aug 2008 18:45:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Heather Jopling http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/09/18/passing-on-queer-family-values/#comment-1107 Heather Jopling Mon, 25 Sep 2006 01:43:03 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/?p=416#comment-1107 Hi there Abigail. Saw that you read our story from the Ottawa Citizen. I agree, that parenthesizing the portion about David's mother, didn't acknowledge his own family dynamic as it could have. We've had lots of positive response to the article. We had a great book launch in our small town last night and hope that buzz will get <a href="http://www.nicknamepress.com/ourbooks.html">our books</a> into the hands of people who will enjoy them. Heather Hi there Abigail. Saw that you read our story from the Ottawa Citizen. I agree, that parenthesizing the portion about David’s mother, didn’t acknowledge his own family dynamic as it could have. We’ve had lots of positive response to the article.

We had a great book launch in our small town last night and hope that buzz will get our books into the hands of people who will enjoy them.

Heather

]]> By: Tired But Happy http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/09/18/passing-on-queer-family-values/#comment-1079 Tired But Happy Fri, 22 Sep 2006 22:04:32 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/?p=416#comment-1079 Thanks for this link. This family is really inspiring. My partner has been a sperm donor for two different couples. Both couples are very close friends of his. When we were first together, I was a little confused about whether to consider these kids (and their moms, and their siblings) part of our family or not. This is the conclusion I've come to: biology is only a small part of what makes someone family. I do consider one of the kids my family because I've spent a lot of time with her and because I love her. The fact that she looks a lot like my partner deepens the relationship, but it's only the icing on the cake. The other kid I've only met once. I hope some day I'll get to spend more time with him, and I'd be happy if he came to feel like family. But he's not family just because my partner was his donor. I don't know many folks with families like ours, so I don't always feel like I have the right language to define my relationships. I'm very happy to find this site. Thanks for this link. This family is really inspiring.

My partner has been a sperm donor for two different couples. Both couples are very close friends of his. When we were first together, I was a little confused about whether to consider these kids (and their moms, and their siblings) part of our family or not.

This is the conclusion I’ve come to: biology is only a small part of what makes someone family. I do consider one of the kids my family because I’ve spent a lot of time with her and because I love her. The fact that she looks a lot like my partner deepens the relationship, but it’s only the icing on the cake. The other kid I’ve only met once. I hope some day I’ll get to spend more time with him, and I’d be happy if he came to feel like family. But he’s not family just because my partner was his donor.

I don’t know many folks with families like ours, so I don’t always feel like I have the right language to define my relationships. I’m very happy to find this site.

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