Aug 2nd, 2006
Coming Out While Married Stories by Black Lesbians
Here’s a call for submissions which I found via Lambda Literary Foundation:
RedBone Press seeks well-written personal stories by black lesbians on the subject of coming out while married to a man. Looking for journal entries, personal essays, creative autobiographical fiction, poetry or whatever way the words come together to describe your coming out. This book is intended to be a resource for black women coming out of marriage, and for the women who love them.
Some questions to address are: How did you tell him? (The “honey, can we talk” speech?) What language did you use to communicate your secret? Did you know your orientation before you got married or after? Why didn’t you keep it to yourself? Were there any fears of violence? Did it delay your coming out? What is the present state of your relationship with him? Do you have any regrets? Do your kids know? How do you manage co-parenting with your ex-husband?
We are also looking for stories from women who are partnered with formerly married women, addressing their point of view surrounding these issues.
For more information, contact redbonepress@yahoo.com
Ahh, a “how to” manual for destroying a family.
How nice…just what the black community needs.
Oh, please. As if heterosexual wives will pick up the book and think, “Hmmm…that looks good…I think I’ll get a divorce and go gay.”
Read more that I’ve written on the topic of closeted people in marriages.
For any of you who think it’s better for married lesbians to keep it to themselves and never come out, scroll down to the comment from “dyke spouse.” If you were her husband, would you want to stay married to a woman who was miserable with you?