Comments on: Fag-Hag Emancipation

By: Felippe Romero

Felippe Romero — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 23:54:12 +0000

Hi Abigail,

Love your blog. Is it still active?

Felippe

By: Whitney Keyes

Whitney Keyes — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 02:56:46 +0000

What a great blog! I’m going to link back to you in mine on the Seattle PI and on my website! I’m a straight woman with a lot of gay male friends and I also don’t like the FH label. I’m also a web TV show producer and I thought you and your blog pals might want to watch a fun web TV show we just did on the unique relationships - and fascination - straight women have with gay men. It is a bite-sized show (under 5 minutes long) and you’ll see us talking to one of my gay male friends, Karl, about the stereotypes he faces and a slew of other things. You can see it this week here: http://www.WhitneyandWyatt.com and in a week it will be archived under our “relationships and sex” section. -Whitney Keyes

By: Abigail Garner

Abigail Garner — Wed, 16 May 2007 15:36:09 +0000

The duel I describe is an initial passive-aggressive confrontation that occurs not with people I already know, but rather with some gay strangers or gay friends-of-friends-of-friends who I encounter at whatever gay/queer event/conference/meeting.

By: fruitybug of sorts

fruitybug of sorts — Wed, 16 May 2007 02:03:22 +0000

Don’t you think there’s something wrong with your relationship if he is subjecting you to competitive duels, and that is outside the term’s meaning?

The term doesn’t even come close to representing the actual relationships that exist between gay men and women everyday - but it also brings a certain visibility to the borders of gay and straight culture, and blurs some things we thought we knew for sure.

Doesn’t that make the term valuable? At least a little?

By: the life cycle of a fruit fly » An open letter to Amy, the proud fag hag.

the life cycle of a fruit fly » An open letter to Amy, the proud fag hag. — Thu, 06 Jul 2006 07:31:30 +0000

[...] - A recent post on a blog by Abagail Garner, whose father is a gay man and who runs the FamiliesLikeMine website, also points out some issues with the terminology of fag hag: “I voice my opposition to the term ‘fag hag’ regularly and loudly. When gay dads dismiss my opposition and insist I just need to lighten up, I ask them if this label is what their daughters should aspire to be when they are grown.” [...]