Comments on: On Gay Fathers / For Father’s Day http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/06/16/on-gay-fathers/ Culturally Queer News and Views from Abigail Garner Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:09:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Terry http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/06/16/on-gay-fathers/#comment-6451 Terry Fri, 10 Oct 2008 22:14:47 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/?p=296#comment-6451 I stumbled across this today and I simply could not leave the sight without saying something, even though this is an old discussion. While I agree that marriage is a sacred gift, I believe the "choice" to be celibate is just that, a choice. I also believe that while you make that choice, others should be able to choose to be married. No one should be able to decide that for us. In my opinion, if you suggest that being gay means you must choose to be celibate because marriage is a sacred gift, then you are also saying that gays who choose to marry are not Christians because it goes against something sacred. I agree that no one is asking Eric to marry a woman, but I think he was simply pointing out that this is what society expects of us. I was married for 12 years and I have to live with the guilt of pretending to be something I was not and stealing 12 years of my ex-wife's life, when both of us could have been much happier (as we are today). I don't believe God condemns us for who we choose to marry. I believe that God gave us the gift to love another person and be faithful to them, regardless of their gender. I believe that you can take anything you want from me...my pride, my belongings, my self-worth, but you can never take my belief in God away from me. He lives in my heart and soul and that, my friend, is the way to Heaven. I stumbled across this today and I simply could not leave the sight without saying something, even though this is an old discussion.

While I agree that marriage is a sacred gift, I believe the “choice” to be celibate is just that, a choice. I also believe that while you make that choice, others should be able to choose to be married. No one should be able to decide that for us.

In my opinion, if you suggest that being gay means you must choose to be celibate because marriage is a sacred gift, then you are also saying that gays who choose to marry are not Christians because it goes against something sacred.

I agree that no one is asking Eric to marry a woman, but I think he was simply pointing out that this is what society expects of us. I was married for 12 years and I have to live with the guilt of pretending to be something I was not and stealing 12 years of my ex-wife’s life, when both of us could have been much happier (as we are today).

I don’t believe God condemns us for who we choose to marry. I believe that God gave us the gift to love another person and be faithful to them, regardless of their gender.

I believe that you can take anything you want from me…my pride, my belongings, my self-worth, but you can never take my belief in God away from me. He lives in my heart and soul and that, my friend, is the way to Heaven.

]]> By: John Mark http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2006/06/16/on-gay-fathers/#comment-5875 John Mark Fri, 13 Jun 2008 17:59:25 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/?p=296#comment-5875 As a 'gay' man who chooses celibacy, I would say that it is not your or my right to be married. It is a sacred gift to begin with, not a right, just to give you some grounding for the basis of your thoughts. Who is asking you to marry a woman? As a ‘gay’ man who chooses celibacy, I would say that it is not your or my right to be married. It is a sacred gift to begin with, not a right, just to give you some grounding for the basis of your thoughts. Who is asking you to marry a woman?

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