Comments on: What it’s like to be a queerspawn.

By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Queerspawn: One Blogger’s Reflections

Tue, 13 Nov 2007 19:05:41 +0000

[...] am also Queerspawn. This means that my mom is a lesbian and I grew up with her and her partner, my other mom, [...]

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Queercents » Ten Money Questions for Abigail Garner — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 13:11:40 +0000

[...] several years, Abigail Garner has been at the forefront of the Queerspawn movement. Queerspawn means that you are an adult child of one or more LGBT parent(s). Abigail is the author of Families [...]

By: billo

billo — Sun, 22 Oct 2006 02:53:04 +0000

Well i think the term ‘queerspawn’ is OK as long as kids arent taught to use it as a homophobic slur (in school or at home)

I’m a gay man myself and I think its OK to use the word because its lighthearted and quite er… sweet!

i think its sweet gays adopting kids as long as the kids socialise with the neighbours and everyone is happy and moving along nicely dont see the problem.

bill, uk.

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 06 Jun 2006 21:21:05 +0000

After reading that last comment - um, wow.

Well, maybe all us gays should just go kill ourselves so that we don’t have to experience pain in the world, huh? WTF? I mean, clearly it would be better if we all didn’t exist.

Whatever.

Anyway, Abigail, great post, as usual.

I’m a lesbian who doesn’t plan on having any kids, but for me it’s just that I’d rather concentrate on my nephews and on other kids who need adults in their lives. I’m just not cut out for parenting. I wish others would be able to examine themselves honestly (and not deflect it all by blaming the culture!) before deciding whether they are up to the parenting task.

And for those who parent, gay or straight, your child will probably experience pain in the world–it’s the parents who help kids learn how to deal with it and how to become strong, resiliant and compassionate adults.

Hmmm, now that I think of it, I’m kinda glad this person above didn’t reproduce.

By: LavLib

LavLib — Sat, 03 Jun 2006 19:01:15 +0000

As a lesbian who made the decision long ago not to have children (one of the reasons for which included the kind of bigotry my kids would have to face), maybe I have no business commenting on this, but…

“Queerspawn”?

I would have thought a word like that had been concocted by frothing-at-the-mouth homophobes, not by children of LGBT people.

It makes a COG sound like an accidental discharge when the condom broke, instead of a human being.

Flame away if you must, but the word makes me downright queasy. Perhaps you wear the title with pride, I don’t know — but to this outsider’s ear, it sounds not only dehumanizing, but… well, frankly, self-loathing.

You know, the more I hear from adult children of LGBTs, the more convinced I am I made the right decision not to have children myself. I’m very sorry for all the anger and hurt you’ve had to carry all your lives — but I’m very glad that I didn’t contribute my own genes to your particular world of pain.

Peace.

By: Lukas Blakk

Lukas Blakk — Fri, 02 Jun 2006 01:59:11 +0000

ya, i hear you with the kids in school - I never told anyone about my mom until gr. 5 and then when I told my two closest friends they told everyone and then said they couldn’t play with me anymore. The funny thing was, everyone else was fine with it. But, I didn’t really tell anyone again for a long time. I always thought it was interesting that because i’m a girl and my mom’s a lesbian - people felt okay assuming that’s why I was gay, or asking questions like “did she touch you innappropriately?” WTF? My male friend with a lesbian mom never got that stuff. But boys with gay dads probably did.

I’m glad you found my blog and that I know about yours now.

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 01 Jun 2006 16:02:17 +0000

Great post — one of the arguments that “the other side” makes about why same-sex parents are detrimental to children is that children are exposed to ridicule and discrimination because of it, and you have to stop and say, Yeah, because you ridicule and discriminate! Children in LGBT families wouldn’t have these issues if opponents didn’t create the problems.

By: Maria

Maria — Thu, 01 Jun 2006 15:49:58 +0000

A most interesting blog and the first time I have read about being the child of gay parents.

I will be back to read more because my daughter is expecting twins and they will be raised by two Mommies.

Happy Families Day!

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