Comments on: Valentine’s Day and the Double Standard http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/ Culturally Queer News and Views from Abigail Garner Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:36:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Damn Straight » Blog Archive » Freedom to Marry Week http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-5934 Damn Straight » Blog Archive » Freedom to Marry Week Sun, 22 Jun 2008 03:50:58 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-5934 [...] Related Archived Column: “Valentine’s Day and the Double Standard” [...] [...] Related Archived Column: “Valentine’s Day and the Double Standard” [...]

]]> By: Steven http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-3176 Steven Wed, 24 Jan 2007 01:47:28 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-3176 Anyone who lives in Maine should check out the Walk With The One You Love day. Lots of couples, straight and gay, walking openly hand in hand and kissing like it was the most normal thing to do. More of these events would do wonders all across America! Anyone who lives in Maine should check out the Walk With The One You Love day. Lots of couples, straight and gay, walking openly hand in hand and kissing like it was the most normal thing to do. More of these events would do wonders all across America!

]]> By: Sarah R. http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-375 Sarah R. Thu, 04 May 2006 14:41:35 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-375 I recently bought several of the Hallmark "Kiss Kiss" bears to give to friends for Valentine's Day. Of course they are designed so only opposite "sex" bears can kiss - the magnets in their little bear noses are sewn in so that the magnets in two girls bears will repel. I turned one of the magnets over in one of the girls' noses and the same with one of the boy bears. I gave the girl bears that now "kiss" to a friend and her girlfriend this weekend and they were thrilled. They had just been discussing that they were sure that Hallmark designed the bears so girl bears could only kiss boy bears. I'm just proud to have gotten around the corporate heterosexism.... And I have a couple of friends in Louisiana who will be receiving a pair of kissing boy bears in the mail this week..... I recently bought several of the Hallmark “Kiss Kiss” bears to give to friends for Valentine’s Day. Of course they are designed so only opposite “sex” bears can kiss - the magnets in their little bear noses are sewn in so that the magnets in two girls bears will repel. I turned one of the magnets over in one of the girls’ noses and the same with one of the boy bears. I gave the girl bears that now “kiss” to a friend and her girlfriend this weekend and they were thrilled. They had just been discussing that they were sure that Hallmark designed the bears so girl bears could only kiss boy bears. I’m just proud to have gotten around the corporate heterosexism…. And I have a couple of friends in Louisiana who will be receiving a pair of kissing boy bears in the mail this week…..

]]> By: Rita http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-314 Rita Fri, 14 Apr 2006 16:09:38 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-314 Tonsillectomy: Thanks for this image. I had forgotten about this special moment in U.S. history. Tonsillectomy: Thanks for this image. I had forgotten about this special moment in U.S. history.

]]> By: Mary http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-313 Mary Fri, 14 Apr 2006 16:08:21 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-313 You have hit several nails right on the head and I hope that it receives a VERY wide audience. Unfortunately, even if the right people read it, they wouldn't believe and absorb the message about how their hatred hurts our lives. It is comforting to see more and more states legislate protection for g/l/b/t people, but it's just not moving fast enough to suit me. You have hit several nails right on the head and I hope that it receives a VERY wide audience. Unfortunately, even if the right people read it, they wouldn’t believe and absorb the message about how their hatred hurts our lives. It is comforting to see more and more states legislate protection for g/l/b/t people, but it’s just not moving fast enough to suit me.

]]> By: Danny Crosby http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-311 Danny Crosby Fri, 14 Apr 2006 15:52:34 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-311 I agree wholehearedly that it is an outrage that homosexual couples feel that they can not express their love in the same way as heterosexual ones. I also support the view that same sex couples are given the same rights as heterosexual ones. Afterall love is love, however it is expressed. Thankfully, in Britain, equal status has been recently granted. I also feel that the continued promotion, of the view, that homosexuality is somehow abnormal, will lead to more gay people feeling the need to conceal their sexuality. People must be open and honest about who and what they are. Many gay people try and "cure" their homosexuality by forming heterosexual relationships. This not only makes their own lives miserable, but also the lives of their partners. There is also the problem of children that come from such relationships. I know that a great deal of my own emotional and psychological problems stem from the dishonesty of my mother and fathers marriage. Danny Crosby P.S. I think that Valentines day is just a load of commercial BS. If you love someone you should show that to them everyday, not just on February the 14th. I agree wholehearedly that it is an outrage that homosexual couples feel that they can not express their love in the same way as heterosexual ones. I also support the view that same sex couples are given the same rights as heterosexual ones. Afterall love is love, however it is expressed. Thankfully, in Britain, equal status has been recently granted.

I also feel that the continued promotion, of the view, that homosexuality is somehow abnormal, will lead to more gay people feeling the need to conceal their sexuality. People must be open and honest about who and what they are. Many gay people try and “cure” their homosexuality by forming heterosexual relationships. This not only makes their own lives miserable, but also the lives of their partners. There is also the problem of children that come from such relationships. I know that a great deal of my own emotional and psychological problems stem from the dishonesty of my mother and fathers marriage.

Danny Crosby

P.S.

I think that Valentines day is just a load of commercial BS. If you love someone you should show that to them everyday, not just on February the 14th.

]]> By: Adrian http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-230 Adrian Thu, 13 Apr 2006 19:33:21 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-230 Thank you so much for your wonderful articles in Lavender. Your column is the first one I read every time. You have a great family which has given you so much incite. Keep up the great work. Thank you so much for your wonderful articles in Lavender. Your column is the first one I read every time. You have a great family which has given you so much incite. Keep up the great work.

]]> By: Tina http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-229 Tina Thu, 13 Apr 2006 19:31:56 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-229 This is a great article Abigail. I've had several similar experiences and it's sad that even I have been conditioned to not accept my mother's love for her partner (in public). The conditioning runs deep, the struggle, long... This is a great article Abigail. I’ve had several similar experiences and it’s sad that even I have been conditioned to not accept my mother’s love for her partner (in public). The conditioning runs deep, the struggle, long…

]]> By: Anonymous http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/09/valentines-day-double-standard/#comment-194 Anonymous Wed, 12 Apr 2006 06:02:29 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2001/02/01/valentines-day-and-the-double-standard/#comment-194 My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, and my sons, 4 and 7 are used to us showing affection. When I was 'straight,' this was more than appropriate -- it was demanded from society! Now that I am in a same-sex couple, I see that 'normal' affection is seen as inappropriate by many parts of society, even gay people themselves! My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, and my sons, 4 and 7 are used to us showing affection. When I was ’straight,’ this was more than appropriate — it was demanded from society! Now that I am in a same-sex couple, I see that ‘normal’ affection is seen as inappropriate by many parts of society, even gay people themselves!

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