Comments on: Gender-Specific Days Can Be Challenging for Transgender Parents http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/ Culturally Queer News and Views from Abigail Garner Fri, 05 Dec 2008 11:14:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Anon http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-2773 Anon Wed, 13 Dec 2006 19:05:03 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-2773 My father is a MTF transexual and has been living as a woman for the past 10 years (since I was 13). I would never dream of sending her a Mother's Day card - she is not my mother. She has abdicated her role as my father also so I don't send Father's Day cards either. I am a mother myself now and that is a very specific and hard-earned position that you can't "buy" through gender assignment surgery. I love her completely but my Mother she is not ... My father is a MTF transexual and has been living as a woman for the past 10 years (since I was 13). I would never dream of sending her a Mother’s Day card - she is not my mother. She has abdicated her role as my father also so I don’t send Father’s Day cards either.

I am a mother myself now and that is a very specific and hard-earned position that you can’t “buy” through gender assignment surgery.

I love her completely but my Mother she is not …

]]> By: Dan http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-235 Dan Thu, 13 Apr 2006 20:01:33 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-235 Wonderful article, as usual! I would add, in my cynical way, that Mother's and Father's day were created by the greeting card companies for the explicit purpose of getting the public to spend more. Wonderful article, as usual! I would add, in my cynical way, that Mother’s and Father’s day were created by the greeting card companies for the explicit purpose of getting the public to spend more.

]]> By: Anonymous http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-197 Anonymous Wed, 12 Apr 2006 16:19:12 +0000 http://damnstraight.oversampled.net/2000/06/02/trans-parents-mothers-day/#comment-197 As a transexual mom, I personally don't see why this should be an issue on Mother's Day. Keep in mind that these are made-up days. I'm much more concerned about how my children feel about me all the rest of the days of the year. To suggest that it's a lonely time for transexual female parents is just plain dumb. The only thing we need be concerned about is our children, not our wants from them. I live for their daily love, not for the one day a year, just as I don't just tell them I love them once a year. As a transexual mom, I personally don’t see why this should be an issue on Mother’s Day. Keep in mind that these are made-up days. I’m much more concerned about how my children feel about me all the rest of the days of the year. To suggest that it’s a lonely time for transexual female parents is just plain dumb. The only thing we need be concerned about is our children, not our wants from them. I live for their daily love, not for the one day a year, just as I don’t just tell them I love them once a year.

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